Wow, I haven't done this in a minute.
Well, it seems to be all the craze to settle these days. We settle for less than we deserve when it comes to many areas in our lives. The biggest being RELATIONSHIPS. Men and women alike but more so women.
Often times we allow ourselves to become complacent in the way things are or have always been. The fact that he provides and where would I go? What would I do? What about the kids? Along with any other excuse there is to make us feel better about not leaving a toxic relationship, situationship, or environment.
Times have changed, we all know this, but at the same token there must be some level of commitment.
My question to single mothers would be - How long are you going to continue to allow him to knock you up before you realize he's not going to marry you? We all know the women that I'm referring to... the ones that think giving him a baby is going to keep him. Then, baby after baby....still no commitment. Now it doesn't have to be marriage, although that is the American Dream right? Marriage, big house, white picket fence and a couple of kids - FAMILY. Of course that's the dream but many won't admit it over the sake of their feelings.
GOALS people. Do you have any?
Every situation is different of course. What I'm saying is you can not expect change if you continue to do the same old thing... get mad, leave him, take him back, get pregnant. It only makes YOUR life harder. I encourage unwed women to have the number of children that THEY can afford. He may not always be there. Child support is a joke - we know this. Will marriage save you? No, but it is a bit of a security blanket in the event that he does decide to up and leave you stuck with a house full of kids. Divorce court and Child support court differ tremendously.
I just hope that one day women take heed to the message and stop taking it as judgement or negativity. Its TRUTH no matter who it comes from.
I will leave you with this:
AT SOME POINT WE ALL HAVE TO DECIDE TO WANT BETTER FOR OURSELVES. WHATEVER THAT BETTER SITUATION MAY BE, TAKE THE STEPS TOWARDS IT
HAVING PERMANENT CONSEQUENCES FROM TEMPORAL FEELINGS/ACTIONS NEVER HELPED ANYONE.
It's not just unwed mothers. It's wives, husbands, courtships in all walks of life..the Abused whether mental or physical mistreatment...the list goes on and on. DECIDE!!!! DECIDE!!!
-Do you want to be a baby mother forever?
-Are you ok just being the side chick? You never want to be married?
-Are you going to keep allowing him to mistreat you?
-Are you ok that he/she is just using you for money?
-Sir, you know she's cheating on you - are you ok with that forever?
-Will you allow him to keep hitting you?
Decide to want better, do better and be better...TODAY! It's possible
